Anal Sex Tips

Tips to Have Anal Sex that is pain-free and pleasurable.

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1. Must be Your Wish

The first recommendation is to have anal sex only if you truly desire it, not only to appease your partner's need. Everything must be well-balanced!

Also, anal intercourse should not be painful.

If it does, put a halt to it.

Please.

Sure, the sensation may be strange, and you may be sore afterwards, but pain isn't supposed to be a part of it.

2. Stimulate Around it First

While internal stimulation can be enjoyable, you can have just s much fun without ever putting anything into the anus. Massage or lick around it; this area is densely packed with nerve endings than can provide pleasure in and of themselves.

Regardless of whether there’s any penetration going on, anything with anal requires lots of trust and relaxation, safety, and comfort. If you start down the anal path tense, you’re going to have a bad—or at least not as good—time. Take a few moments to relax and get in the right headspace. And if you find the idea is too stressful or uncomfy, you can absolutely say no to anal play at any point in time.

3. Steer Clear of Numbing Lube.

Because the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina, it is essential to use lubricant for a good (and safer!) sex experience. While you might be tempted to reach for some numbing lubrication designed for anal intercourse, you should stay away from anything that numbs the anal sphincter. This is the one spot where you want to know what's hurting so you can stop doing whatever you're doing rather than waiting for the numbing lubricant/cream to wear off and discover the damage.

We limit our paths to pleasure when we are tense, contracting [our muscles], or disengaged from our experience.

You'll probably be able to have a more delightful sensation if you relax and breathe.

4. Try it With a Dildo First.

If practicing anal foreplay with a partner is like competing in the Olympics, it makes logical to practice in a low-stakes situation first. A smooth bendable Dildo toy like our Blossom Rose with a suction cup on the bottom allows you to "practice" anywhere with a flat surface, such in your bedroom or the shower, and allows for easy angle changes to find what's most comfortable for you.

Remember that clitoral stimulation is quite crucial during anal play since it allows a vulva-owner to relax and become completely aroused, both of which are essential steps in enjoying "butt things". Consider a classic vibrator or a suction toy, such as our Rose Suction Stimulator.

5. It's Still a Good Idea to Use a Condom.

The reason for this is that STDs and STIs can undoubtedly be transmitted during anal intercourse. This is because, in addition to skin-to-skin contact and fluid exchange, the anus lining can be damaged by friction, making it prone to infection. That is why condoms should be used at all times, not just during anal intercourse but during any sort of contact in which genital fluids are exchanged.

It's also a good idea to say a few safe words before diving in.

The following are some examples of safe words:

"Yes, I like it! (when you are having fun)

"Slow down"! (meaning caution)

"Stop"! (to be safe and avoid any pain)

Because they don't want to ruin the moment for the other partner or because they don't know how to formulate their needs, some people try to [have sex] through [anal sex], rather than speaking up, because they don't want to ruin the moment for the other partner or because they don't know how to formulate their needs, and sometimes even override their body's resistance, potentially adding more discomfort to the experience. Pre-programmed safe words will make you and your partner feel more supported and confident in your explorations.